I read many blogs about parenthood, motherhood, and life in general. One of the blogs I read talked about moms, especially stay at home moms feeling like they were invisible at times. She quotes from the book, "The Invisible Woman: A Special Story for Mothers" by Nicole Johnson . What a wonderful book. I bought it on kindle and read it immediatley. It will truly touch your heart and soul.
I definitely could relate to the not feeling noticed part. I feel as if some days my family thinks a magical wand came through and cleaned the house, folded the laundry, bathed the kids and got dinner on the table. There are days I wonder how would anything get done or cleaned if I didn't do it? My 7 year old made a comment that I'm always folding clothes. "Well, if I didn't do it who would? Ya'll would be wearing dirty clothes!!!"
What are some of the things that go unnoticed in your family? Do you say anything or do you let it build up and come out later?
It focused on the topic of "Do I matter?"
"Does what I do in my everyday life as a Mom matter?" It stated that only we can answer that question. Not our kids nor our husbands can decide if what we are doing with our lives matters. It is a truly deep question that makes you look at your inner core. The author believes that even though we may feel as if no one notices us, God does. Everything we do, say and think.
In the book, there is a reference to how the magnificent cathedrals in France and Italy were built by people who had such great faith and desire to please something bigger than themselves. They worked endlessly knowing they would never see their finished project. Some of the workers put sayings or pictures behind the walls of the cathedrals and when asked why, they replied they did it because God could see it.
It made me think about how I acted today. How I spoke to my children and to my husband. Am I pleased with my behavior today? This is my new guide. I will try and take a breath and remind myself that it all does matter. Every word, the tone of my voice, every gesture etc. Sometimes I do and say things that make me not proud. There are times when I get frustrated with something the kids do or say. Sometimes it is hard to be in control and not lose my temper. I know I am only human but I also know I can do better.
This book touched my heart in so many ways. There are aspects of my life that I need to improve. It's human nature to want to better yourself. This book is so encouraging and helps to reaffirm to me that it all does matter. Even though we may not be here to see the finished product, our work will leave a lasting mark on the world.
I don't know if my children will ever truly appreciate everything my husband and I do for them on a dialy basis. My hope is that they do and someday they do the same when they are Mamas themselves. For now, I will continue to strive to be the best Mama and wife I can. I will remember that there is something bigger than myself that makes all the "really difficult times" truly worth it.
I absolutely fell in love with this quote when I read it....I will print it and hang in on my fridge.
Faith is not without worry or care, but faith is fear that has said a prayer. ~ Author Unknown
Hi I'm Jen, married to my best friend for 16 years and a Mom to 3 beautiful, energetic daughters. My blog is about life, learning to live with Grace and Girls Raised In The South (GRITS). Thanks for spending some time in my small part of the world! I hope you find a story you can relate to and you'll want to come back!
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