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Intuition

7/5/2012

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Do we REALLY know what we are doing as parents?  How do we know what our children are going to be like as adults?  Is the way we disciplining our children, hurting or helping them?  I think about all of this CONSTANTLY!!!  I have learned through trial & error that as a Mom you have to just follow your gut, your heart, your intuition.  So many times we self doubt ourselves because we are afraid of what other people may think or what the outcome may be.  Most of the time, if we would follow our intuition, things will turn out just fine.

I think back to when my first daughter was born.  I didn't have a clue about being a Mom.  While being pregnant I read every parenting book possible.  Yes, there was some helpful information but nothing prepares you for that moment when your baby is put on your chest and you realize, "Wow , I  just became a Mother." 

Here I was with this beautiful little baby girl who was totally dependent on me.  I was breastfeeding her and although I absolutely loved it, it was stressful at times.  I thought, "what if she doesn't eat?, what if she isn't getting enough?"  I was her life line.  That is a lot of responsibility!!!  Well, it turned out just fine.  At least I think it did :-) Yes, my husband and I made and still make mistakes as parents but it is all part of the journey. 

I feel like I learned more with each baby.  I was pretty uptight with our first.  I was always worried about routine, schedules etc.  With our second, I was just trying to figure out how to survive with two young daughters on top of a lot of life changes.  Finally, with our third I am feeling like I am embracing motherhood and enjoying it all while I can.  Life is too short to be so worried about everything.

As Moms we know we need to show our children love, kindness and respect.  The rest will fall into place.  We'll figure out how much to feed them, bathe them, read to them, etc.  Because that is what a mother does.   Women learn to incorporate themselves into many different roles in such a short time.  Some days it amazes me when I think of all the responsibilities a Mom has and more importantly how amazingly it all gets done.  There are some days things don't get done and well that is okay too.  BALANCE!!!

Now, I'm not meaning to leave out Daddies.  They are equally important and so very good at what they do.  We love our Daddies!!!

So, do you find yourself second guessing your decisions as a parent?  Do you worry about what others may think of your parenting style?  How do you handle it?  


Mother love is the fuel that enables a normal human being to do the impossible.  ~ Marion C. Garrety

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Cynthia link
7/5/2012 10:20:43 am

This is a beautiful article. I am still clueless about parenting. I came from a southern family where hitting was just part of your day and that is not my parenting style as it did not accomplish anything with me... Thanks for sharing.

Cynthia
www.richlymiddleclass.com

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D Marie Michael link
7/5/2012 12:26:14 pm

Hi Jen - I am your newest follower. from the Moms blogger club (simply follow) group. Nice to meet you and I look forward to reading your blog. I go by the Vintage Boomer

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mystepmomlife link
7/5/2012 02:01:55 pm

I love this post. I became a part of my now step-children lives when they were 3 & 5 and I was PARANOID about every little thing. I was 20 years old and had no idea what I was doing. I was afraid to let them out of my sight. Then again, this may be because the first time my husband left them home alone with me they made a slip and slide on my kitchen floor with a bottle of dish soap while I was in the shower...you live and learn though. Now I just enjoy the time that I have with them and stop worrying about what everyone says that I should or shouldn't be doing as a step mother. I just do what I think is right. That seems to work best for me.

I just signed up to follow you via email. I found your site from the Mom Bloggers Club (Simply Follow Group). I look forward to reading more about your family. I hope you check me out too!

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Nicole Buckingham link
7/6/2012 01:40:47 am

Yeah, I'm pretty sure we are all completely making it up as we go along but love, well, love is a good place to start. =)

Aloha,

Stopping by to say "hi" and to be your newest follower from the melomomma hop...

If you're up for a bit of a ride I'd love it if you'd join me at localsugarhawaii.com where we're riding the wave of life. And, if you'd like, we're linking up with tons of beautiful bloggers today for our ALOHA Friday HOP-- come join us.
xo,
Nicole
localsugarhawaii.com

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Mom of A and a link
7/6/2012 08:09:11 am

Hi, coming over from the Aloha Bloghop! This is true for most of us, I guess! Thanks for putting it into words so beautifully!

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