We love our little ones, no one doubts that belief. Don't you wish that someone would have told you that there were going to be rough days? I sure do. I think as new, sometimes young, sometimes old (er) Moms we have this vision of what motherhood and parenthood should look like. First of all, remember it's just that: a vision. We think this adorable bundle of joy will be just that a "joy" to raise. We have all of these ideas in our heads of how the baby will grow and behave etc. Well, what happens when that is not how things play out? What happens when your children start to talk back or learn disrespectful behavior?
Don't you wish when you left the hospital the nurse would have handed you a paper that read, "Welcome to Motherhood, where there will be more LOVE and more CHAOS than you could ever imagine."
IT's true. These little ones that make our hearts swell like no body's business can also irritate us to the core. These sweet little ones whose laughter lightens your day can equally bring dark circles under your eyes and grey hair to your scalp.
You know what though, it's all worth it. Not only is it worth it, but EVERY single Mom or Dad goes through it. So, next time you're in the car line and see the well groomed back to her pre pregnancy jeans in a week Mom REALLY look at her. She is having hard days too. We Moms need to stick together and be there for one another. We need to offer a hug or an extra cup of coffee when we see that Mom that looks worn down or defeated.
I wish someone would have told me that it's all going to be okay. I wish someone would have said, "You'll mess up, and you'll probably lose your patience. It's okay, it's all part of the journey. Don't fret and move on."
I love my kids. I adore my kids. I would do anything in the world to protect them. I know when they become Mamas themselves I will tell them what I wish I heard. I will tell them not every day will be smooth sailing. You will have days when going to the bathroom alone is a treat. You'll have days where you laugh so hard your side aches and you'll have days you cry so hard your eyes ache. Don't feel guilty for wanting and more importantly needing a break. Don't feel embarrassed if you wear yoga pants ALL the time when you are not even going to yoga! Enjoy being a Mom. It's a beautiful gift and a beautiful mess all at the same time. Don't judge other Mamas. Have fun! Find a way to make yourself feel happy each and every day. P.S. YOU ARE AN AMAZING MOM!
Yes, that is what I will tell them. I sure hope they listen. How about going and telling a Mom or Dad in your life what a great job they are doing. It may be all they need to hear today!
No language can express the power, and beauty, and heroism, and majesty of a mother's love. It shrinks not where man cowers, and grows stronger where man faints, and over wastes of worldly fortunes sends the radiance of its quenchless fidelity like a star.
~ Edwin Hubbell Chapin