I crack up at this image. I love the look on this Mom's face. I know too often I have that same exact look. It's okay Mom...press on, press on...This week has been a particularly busy week. I know it's life...honestly when are we not feeling busy? Most days I go, go, go and GO some more. When I have a moment to sit and think (or a split second that I am not hearing, "Mom, I need help!") I try to remind myself that it all goes so fast. I try to tell myself "take a deep breath and look around." "They will be all grown up in a blink of an eye." It's so true. I know it. You know it. It still doesn't make the day after day of repeating myself to "CLEAN YOUR ROOM!" any easier. Sometimes being a stay at home Mom feels just down right tedious. Don't get me wrong. I LOVE it. (well, most days) I feel very fortunate to be able to stay home. I'm just venting here!
So, the other morning I was feeling rushed. I made a passing comment to my husband about something that had to get done that afternoon. I wasn't complaining about it, I just wanted to talk. Well, actually I wanted him to say, "Oh how can I help you?" but he's not a mind reader, why is he not haha? I should have told him the TRUTH and not just comment about the busyness of my day. I never did come out and tell him how I was really feeling. I wanted him to figure it out by the words I chose. (WARNING LADIES-DON'T DO THIS IF YOU TRULY WANT YOUR HUSBAND'S HELP)
ASK FOR IT IF YOU NEED IT!!!!
I wish I would have. He was on his way out the door, gives me a kiss and says, "You can handle it SuperMom!" Now, on a different day I may have taken that as a compliment. Not this day. It made me MAD! I didn't want to be Super Mom. I wanted him to help me or at least try to help me. I wanted him to realize how full my plate was and I can't possibly fill it with anything else. I wanted him to realize how much I love my job, but I am TIRED!!!
Have you ever felt like everyone around you thinks you can handle it all when inside you are screaming, "I can't do this right now!" It's hard y'all. It brings up all those nasty "I am not cut out for this," "I am the worst Mom, Wife, Friend etc.," "I am a failure" thoughts that we need to NOT listen to. Just because you are feeling tired or busy or frazzled...whatever it is you are feeling DOES NOT EVER make you the world's worst Mom. You are a GREAT Mom. If you don't think so, just take a good hard look at your kiddos. They are living proof that you are doing your job (and the job of a million others) and doing it with absolute wonder!!!
We don't need red capes (although that might be fun!) to be good Moms. Just love. Love your littles or your bigs with all you have. When you are having a hard day (we all have them), give yourself a break. Don't be so hard on yourself. It's okay to tell your kids you need a few minutes to unwind or to sit and have a cup of coffee. Most importantly, it is OK to say, "No, I would love to help, but I just can't do it today."
So, for all you Moms out there that are feeling worn down today I commend you for doing an AWESOME job. I read this the other day and it gave me chills. It made me stop and think that all of this (the good times, and especially the messy times) are happening for a reason. I need to remember each step counts. Each time we wipe a snotty nose, pick up shoes for the umpteenth time or kiss a boo-boo...it is seen and it will be rewarded.
The human heart plans the way,
but the Lord directs the steps.
Hi I'm Jen, married to my best friend for 15 1/2 years and a Mom to 3 beautiful, energetic girls. This blog is about life, learning to live with Grace and Girls Raised In The South (GRITS). Thanks for spending some time in my small part of the world! I hope you find a story you can relate to and you'll want to come back!
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